My name is Talia Klein.

I’m a contradiction. I’m an extrovert and an introvert all rolled into one.

I’ve wanted to write this blog for a long time,  but couldn’t get it started. Seeing as I am incapable of telling my friends and family how I feel, I started this blog, not to inform them, but just to get things off my chest without feeling guilty for burdening them (even though they wouldn’t feel that way).

I’m just like anyone else. I work in hi tech, I have great friends,  I love reading (though I don’t do it enough), I love learning new things, and I dance ballet for fun, except my mom is dying died of glioblastoma, a terminal form of brain cancer. I’m not sure any other information is really necessary here.

You can read the basic background of my mom’s disease in this post.

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18 Responses to “About this Blog”

  1. novice9 Says:

    I read the list of things you don’t want to hear/see in replies, but I can’t help but think that it would be better if you let people try to cheer you up — it might just work, after all. Also, I can’t say I knew your mother, but I want to feel that she wouldn’t have agreed with you that who you are and what you do don’t matter. In any case, I wanted to write a bit more, but I’m not really sure what else to write (especially with that list…); I apologize if this comment isn’t wanted.

    1. DofC Says:

      All comments are welcome (other than the anti-semitic one I deleted).

      I don’t have a problem with people trying to cheer me up at all – those particular words or sentences just pissed me off. Most of them don’t bother me as much anymore.

      And the who I am doesn’t matter was for the blogosphere – I meant that I didn’t want to say my name and location and what I do for a living, etc., because that is all irrelevant to the subject of the blog.

      Thanks so much for your support. 🙂

  2. Faye Wender Says:

    Dear Talia, I just read your 2 posts since your Mother passed away. I only knew you as a child and then during your years at Westbury. You have matured into an articulate, sensitive young woman. I am so impressed with your insight, introspection, and honesty.
    I am hoping that in some small way the big hug and kiss I am sending with this message will make your day a little better. Love, Faye

    1. DofC Says:

      Thanks, Faye. That means a lot to me. especially since I couldn’t have been a bigger dweeb in HS. 🙂

  3. Bernice Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. My sister was dx with colon cancer in Dec 08. She only had 2 treatments of chemo and both were so hard on her that she chose to not do chemo any more. That is hard on the family watching her get weaker and weaker. My father passed away 2 and a half years ago and im glad he wasnt around to see this happenning. My grandmother (age 99) passed away at the end of Oct 08. We havent even had a chance to mourn her. The shiva came and went too fast…Just wanted to let it all out as your blog got me thinking…especially as you are a MOT and a daughter.. Big hugs to you!!!!!!xo

    1. DofC Says:

      I’m so sorry for your terrible year. I hope things look up for you soon.

  4. Kathy Says:

    I found your blog through a google news alert. I do the website for Brain Tumor Action Network and I also monitor google for new brain tumor treatments and the like, and sometimes I get a blog like yours.

    My son was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor in 2003, 3 days after he’d turned 9. He is doing well now and I thank God for every day we have him with us, but the treatments take a toll for those who are lucky enough to survive.

    My niece was diagnosed with inoperable anaplastic astrocytoma grade III on her brainstem a month after she turned 3. She died when she was 4 1/2. That was when my son was 18 months old.

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your parents, and most particularly the recent loss of your mother. My own mother had open heart surgery last Saturday, it was very unexpected, she is very healthy and she suddenly developed a tear in one of her heart valves. No high blood pressure, no enlarge heart, no blood vessel problems, just the valve.

    She is still in intensive care but is doing well. Although we get along really well for the most part, I also fight with her sometimes but this recent event made me realize again how very much I love her, how I admire her and how strong she is.

    I’m getting to be an old woman myself but I still need my mother.

    You will be in my prayers.


  5. It is with respect and best wishes that I let you know that your blog has been nominated for the Best Inspirational Blog on our Site BlogNet Awards. You can be assured that your words will be read and our deepest regards to you.
    Here is the page that you can and should direct your readers and everyone else to:

    http://blognetawards.com/daughter-of-cancer

    Tim Southernwood ( CEO)
    Diane Bjorling ( Administrative Director)

    1. DofC Says:

      Thanks so much! I”ll post about it. 🙂

  6. Anon Says:

    Hello DofC,

    I commented on another post, mentioning how your blog inspired me to try my own. Well, here it is:

    http://survivalguilt.blogspot.com

    It’s not nearly as fancy or pretty as yours, but it’s a start. Thanks for keeping it real, and I hope you enjoy my blog as much as I have enjoyed yours.

    Cheers,
    LV

    1. DofC Says:

      That’s wonderful. I’m happy you have decided to write a blog. And I didn’t create mine – I just chose a template that I liked and took FOREVER to find a header that fit what I was feeling at the time. Good luck with your blog!

  7. Faye Wender Says:

    Dear Talia,
    I think about all of you often-wonderful memories from your family’s years in Houston. Do you remember Sesame Place in Dallas? And we treasure the time we spent with your Mom, Dad and you when we were in Israel Dec ’07. Your Mom was the Rachel I’ll always remember, funny, gracious and of course so very, very warm.
    You’ve mentioned her blog several times, and I think I would really like to read it, if that’s ok. What is the website?
    Please give our love to everyone.
    Faye

    1. DofC Says:

      Hi Faye,

      No, I don’t remember Sesame Place. I’m not even aware we went. My mom’s blog is in Hebrew – not sure you know enough Hebrew to read it? But I will send you the link anyway.

  8. Adi Says:

    Talia,
    I lost my mother when I was a teenager and naturally, I miss her since. for me, it doesn’t get better but you do get used to it and to the implications on life, as you describe them. since then, I got married and gave birth twice, and she was on my thoughts every moment. the sense of loss is something no one can understand unless he went through it… I once read s book named “Motherless Daughters”. it opens with a testimony of a woman that lost her mother, saying that when meeting new people she feels like saying “hello, I am … and I lost my mother” as if that would explain everything. I felt the same way for many years but, if that will give you any hope, I no longer feel like that. as I wrote before, I got used to it and more importantly, I was able to fill my life with new content, people and happiness. I will always miss my mother, I will always feel sorry for her and for my kids for not knowing each other (and for me in that sense…) and I will always imagine talking to her, consulting with her, etc. but I am no longer just a lost daughter 🙂 I am sure that slowly, you will also start feeling this way, if you like it or not.
    Hang in there,
    Adi

    BTW, I love your blog!


  9. Hi, nice to meet you !

  10. rachel Says:

    today i went on google and typed in “what to do when your mother dies” and your blog came up. my mother died july 25th of the same exact condition your mother had. and i feel so lost. i have no idea what to do with out her. my whole life all i have known is her. and she was the glue. hopefully things will get easier soon. thank you for sharing your thoughts


  11. I love your blog and I wish your new family all the best, that’s why I’m spreading some sunshine over here by nominating you for the Sunshine Award http://wilhelminaupton.wordpress.com/2012/04/22/walking-on-sunshine/

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